It's back to school kids!
read: Good News about Bad Behaviour by Katherine Reynolds Lewis I randomly came across this book at the library and picked it up ironically. Soon afterwards I was hooked. The book speaks to the underlying cause of kids acting out. Sometimes it's bad modelling or connection with parents. Often it can be just low expectations yielding minimal output. The book advocates we relinquish control in ordrer to let our kids reach their potential and unlock their own sense of agency. One of my favourite lines is "By doing things for children that they're able to do, we are robbing them of feeling capable." I know for me doing things the kids are capable of is an expediency thing, but if they never learn.
quick: We are ruining childhood - Kim Brooks likens childhood to one long internship just to get into the middle class. Overscheduling, no free time let alone free play. The idea of safety-ism means parents are trying to eliminate any and all harmful experiences. Except that's what builds character. Looking at my kids calendar - I see it. They need to figure some stuff out for themselves but I also feel the need to expose them to as much skill development and opportunity while they're still young and malleable
listen: Decoding Difficult Conversations- another great FS episode. Sheila Heen is a harvard law negotiation expert. She talks about the different levels or lenses we could look at a conflict or negotiation. Once I figure out how to stop procrastinating on some difficult conversations I will definitely re-listen and try and apply
read: Good News about Bad Behaviour by Katherine Reynolds Lewis I randomly came across this book at the library and picked it up ironically. Soon afterwards I was hooked. The book speaks to the underlying cause of kids acting out. Sometimes it's bad modelling or connection with parents. Often it can be just low expectations yielding minimal output. The book advocates we relinquish control in ordrer to let our kids reach their potential and unlock their own sense of agency. One of my favourite lines is "By doing things for children that they're able to do, we are robbing them of feeling capable." I know for me doing things the kids are capable of is an expediency thing, but if they never learn.
quick: We are ruining childhood - Kim Brooks likens childhood to one long internship just to get into the middle class. Overscheduling, no free time let alone free play. The idea of safety-ism means parents are trying to eliminate any and all harmful experiences. Except that's what builds character. Looking at my kids calendar - I see it. They need to figure some stuff out for themselves but I also feel the need to expose them to as much skill development and opportunity while they're still young and malleable
listen: Decoding Difficult Conversations- another great FS episode. Sheila Heen is a harvard law negotiation expert. She talks about the different levels or lenses we could look at a conflict or negotiation. Once I figure out how to stop procrastinating on some difficult conversations I will definitely re-listen and try and apply
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